Originally Posted by
Lily1918 
Guilty! "If I put out, then he wont have to cheat, if I put out he will stay " etc. I didnt realize it at the time.
Agreed, Lily!! That's exactly what I did with my XA. I let him use me for sex, with the thought that, "Well, if he's getting it from me, he won't have to go anywhere else to get it and he'll stay with me." Of course, that didn't happen. He just took the sex whenever he wanted it and when he didn't want it any longer, he moved on and left me here, going, "Ummm....wait - WHAT?!?! What just happened?!?!" Yes, I let him use me for sex, hell, I basically OFFERED it to him any chance I got, because I KNEW that's what he wanted from me, and of course, I wanted to give him whatever he wanted/needed....but with the (mistaken) belief that then he would give me what
I wanted/needed (i.e., love, a committed relationship). Yeah, the second part of that equation obviously never happened....
