Sober, I get what you're saying about our lives in public. However, I've reached a point in mine, where - in a relatively safe forum such as SR - I feel I can talk about my life.
For me, sobriety - or not - is less to do with having a 'guru, method, teacher' (I'm glossing on a Van Morrison song, about 'no guru...etc'). It's, for me, about that quality of life thing which was introduced into this part of R's thread.
If some don't wish or need to talk more about their lives (i.e. the 'bits' which appear to be less to do with recovery), then, of course, there's no compunction to do so.
I just talk about mine - as a few others do here - because I often have no one else to talk to about it.