In my experience it is an on going learning and sometimes struggling processs. I have thought I had all of "it" worked thru when it came to my relationship with my addict. Then when I least expect it or what seems like out of the blue... it's like boom.... and I am dealing with stuff that stems from the old.
I am learning to take risks and to be aware of how I feel...sometimes that means be scared and doing it anyways and sometimes it means knowing I need to run. Listen to your heart and keep talking. And mostly go easy on you. This is tough stuff and it doesn't just go away. Happiness and trust do come back or can be found... but awareness and listening to your heart are the keys. Hugs