The single most helpful thing for me was to understand that my compulsion to drink was not coming from the part of my brain that I control. I wasn't making a conscious choice to desire alcohol. I don't have some character flaw or spiritual defect that makes me desire alcohol. I can't control that impulse any more than I can control being hungry.
I can only control my actions. It's hard, especially at first, but it can be done. I wish you well.