Debysu46, I understand the pain you are going through. When I arrived on SR, my screen name was wheredoiturn. I felt hopeless and in despair. I thought I needed to save my son to save myself.
It was only when I accepted that my son chose his own path and he has to walk it. No matter how much I thought I could save him, it was not within my power. No amount of tears and pleading and shouting made the sligtest difference. I realised that all the "help" I thought I gave him, only helped him to maintain his addiction. I did not know the stranger who used to be my beautiful, darling boy whom I loved so much.
I agree that prison may be the best thing at this stage. You and your husband can choose not to have your lives destroyed by his addiction anymore. Get a restraining order. An addict will destroy all those around them, but only if you let them.
I will keep you, your husband and son in my prayers and may you find the strength to do what is best for you all.