I don't think money is the big issue here, it was an example of your confusion regarding boundaries and control.
Where does enabling stop and controlling begin when we are talking about a spouse and partner?
Enabling - when you clean up her consequences, making excuses, covering bad checks, lying for her, etc. she gets to act out without having to pay the price. But right now she is paying that price, she is in jail because of her choices.
Controlling - trying to get someone to do things we want them to, we nag, we manipulate how ever we can in order to get someone else to do what we want them to.