i agree with avocado....He sounds like he puts all his energy into OTHER women instead of his marriage...He is NOT putting you first and respecting your very reasonable requests.
I am not an AA person, but his logic is flawed...he is trolling for other women and seems to be using their vulnerability in AA.
you know what they say....(at least i have read it here), when you remove the booze from a drunk assh***, you still have the assh***.
you deserve much better treatment, the trust is completely gone. I'm sorry that he is acting so selfishly, it must be so hurtful.