I'm sorry your shutting down
Not everyone is up front and honest. If not on this thread...I hope you still come back for support. Some of us are trustworthy and even some in the system are.
Take a bitter moment and then move on and find support (hug)
PS: most people have no idea what the soventry of native american's mean...there is a huge cultural gap...and I'm sure I'm guilty too...
But my heart goes out to you and your wife. I care about alchoholics and the families they effect...the rest is stuff I have to learn to understand...
Please take care and find any avenue to help you deal.
Nands