Oh, man oh man.
Ain't that the truth. I probably shouldn't do it, but I can't help "peg" certain people who come into AA as "probably has a good shot at making it" (even if a slip should occur), or "nope, not ready." Obviously I am not always right, and I try to be just as supportive to those who AREN'T ready, in the hope that after a little more experimentation they will be willing to come back and get serious. But it's a lot different to go into that helping mode as a fellow alcoholic than it is as a spouse, partner, or parent. Detachment is equally necessary in both situations, though. Even if I am dealing with a fellow alcoholic, I am powerless over that person's disease.