i feel the same way...i dont have kids and not married but i was engaged and getting married in 6 months...and i just could not take it anymore..i tried everything i could i tried to help him and support him and then i myself thought maybe i was being crazy b/c i was searching for alcohol and yelling all the time. But it wasnt my fault i was trying to help him and myself but yet it was onllly making it worse. this is the hardest thing ive ever had to do in my life and its been 2 months since we have broken up and im dying every day inside and i just hope one day that he realizes that he doesnt want to live this life anymore. the thing is that he became sober for 1 year , 2 years ago and everythign was perfect...i dont get why someone would throw their whole life with the person they wanna spend th eir life with for alcohol. hang in there