Thanks guys I appreciate it. I have a lot to learn about detachment. My situation is I live next to the alchoholics. They say they are "not drinking" yet I see beer cans laying around when I've visited, which is not much.
I want to be there for them if the are truly trying to get better but I can't trust that they are being honest with me. Its so frustrating. Detaching has been extroadinarily difficult. I was obsessed with them for quite some time. I have been going to Al Anon and its gotten a little better.
LG