I am coming to realize that it is not others I don't trust, it is me.
I don't trust me to get out when I see the red flags (I have not before). I don't trust me to act in my best interest when someone is in need (I don't mean compromise). I believe we all have "stuff." I don't trust me to not blame my stuff as the problems and later to realize it takes more than one person (and the other person has stuff too).
Recovery has been restoring a lot of this back into me, but it was the worst in romantic relationships so I think I have some skills to learn before I bring it into another relationship. I am two years out from divorce and coming up on three from when it all hit the fan.
I am in awe of all of you that have put yourself out there again. It has been nice to realize inside (and I am not ashamed of it) that I am just not ready.