Another nice guy I dated asked me to his city for a big fancy party that would go late, so I would have to spend the night. I also had to buy a floor-length formal gown.
He said I was welcome to stay at his house or he would be glad to get me a hotel room. I asked for the hotel room, and then I think he was a little put-off when I didn't ask him to share it with me.
I haven't dated for 20 years - since before I met AXH. I am trying to sort it all out, but most of what I've realized is that if he is overly arrogant or narcissistic, I am not sticking around.