Originally Posted by RobbyRobot
Yes, "forgetting" is one of the AVRT "ideas or perks" if you will, which I don't subscribe too. My choice. I remember enough pain for a lifetime, and I'm grateful for those memories. I wanted you to know that it is possible to remember plenty, and too of course stay happily sober/non-drinker.
Yes, it's a strategy that works for many.
I understood jkb to mean that she was unable to remember the pain, but wishes she could call it up again. So it's not that she's choosing not to recall, or that anyone thinks she should choose not to recall, but rather that she is frustrated because the memory is fading and that memory made it easier for her to abstain when the pain was fresh. I just wanted her to know that if she cannot recall, she needn't be scared that it means she will drink again. Maybe I misunderstood.