Originally Posted by
hydrogirl 
Hello Liz, I'm sorry to hear that you have been in such a spin. Lots of great wisdom being shared here. I have done exactly the same thing...obsessed over details that do not matter in the big picture.
As simply as possible, "The forest for the trees."
Oh yes, I totally get that I was obsessing. After going to marriage counseling yesterday and hearing more insanity it has been helpful to me to remember that he truly is sick. Whatever it is that is, it's just summed up by saying that he's sick. I truly can't gain any ground and neither can the marriage counselor. If AH would speak to me at some point, I would love to tell him that counseling is off, but he isn't even making eye contact. I'm sure I'll get my chance at some point. I gave it a shot and realized just how badly I was spinning my wheels.