SweetPea & CrystalButterfly,
Im sorry you both have to deal with the pains of addiction. I did want to tell you both that neither of your stories are new to SR. I have been here almost a year, and have seen many post regarding significant others who mysteriously end relationships and there are suspicions regarding undue influence in the decisions. Im just going to add in links to a few of the posts made here on SR that are similar, so neither of you think you are alone in your issues.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ng-addict.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...need-help.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...a-sponsor.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-sponsor.html?
I will also add my own comment, that while people in recovery do need time and space; the level of that is unique to each individual based on the extent of their illness, and also the complexities of the relationships they are involved in.
Family members and loved ones also may need time and space depending on their own emotional issues including codependency. It is great that you have both been educated in these areas by professionals who work in addiction.
Obviously many rehabs and other living facilities have requirements for their patients. Basically the patient complies or they can be tossed out. So please keep this in mind, because often decisions are made out of necessity to conform to a treatment program. And yes, IMO this type of allegiance also includes people who work the AA/NA program with a sponsor; based on the evidence Ive seen.
You also have to remember that people in treatment are often in a fragile state of mind, and if they are serious about recovery will try to abide by whatever is deemed necessary by those they look up to, and are encouraged to follow.
CrystalButterfly: Im glad to hear your boyfriend was able to find an outpatient program that worked for him & also good news that he is doing well. 90 days is great and represents a lot of hard work; especially from meth.
SweetPea: I suggest to just give it some time, and try not to worry. Hopefully you will at least be able to properly talk to your boyfriend because based on the extent of your relationship, you are due an explanation as to why he took that action, and if he is only doing it to comply with requirements put upon him. This would be my assumption based on the details you have given.