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Old 03-03-2013, 11:01 AM
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LoveMeNow
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Like an addict, codependents commonly deny, rationalize, minimize and compare out.

I used to try and figure out why my husband acted a certain way. What I have come to learn, addiction is not logical. I also learned that the more I tried to come between him and his addiction, the angrier he became with me!

I once told him "I am not your enemy, I am just your addictions." The look on his face was of complete shock. It didn't change him, but he knew what I meant.

IMO, when an addict is active, we either need to put up and shut up or step away. If not, we become their nemesis and will feel their wrath. For me, putting up and shutting up was always and simply impossible.
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