JT
I follow you all the way on this one. It is one thing for us to be nice and decide to go have a visit, and leave.
It is totally another issue when we go because of either our own guilt or the guilt they lay on us (manipulation - ugh).
And when we get there, it can be a happy visit, sharing stories and encouraging thoughts, or it can be yet an extention of the pity party - poor me, what did you bring me, the stores are open and I need.....
Very wise move to step back to consider your feelings before you respond.
I think I would go if I wanted to, and try to make a good day out of it. But if I thought it was going to end up a lousy day, I would probably stay home.
He'll be finished in 20 days and he is then free to visit you and his boy as often as he chooses.
As I re-read what I am posting here I realize that it's a coin toss.
Heads, he wins...tails, you lose.
Okay JT, I've been away and am out of practice here LOL. Go with your instinct. Yes, that's my final answer, Regis.
Good luck and have a wonderful weekend, whatever you choose.