I was at an indoor play centre with my 3 year old yesterday, it can be a lot of fun. It
also is a place where it's easy to forget the crap and focus on your kid.
I left my addict 8 months ago and am sometimes still caught up in the insanity.And my daughter is becoming more aware of it. Yesterday she wanted new batteries for a toy and she told me "he is dead like daddy", I guess she must have heard me talk about my fear he would die.
I love Alanon. Have you tried to go to their meetings? I found a great one in a women centre where they offer childcare during the meetings. I feel so lucky to have found it.
If you haven't been to Alanon meetings you should try it, also buy their book "how alanon works" and read it. It's about $5 and is a great read.