Thank you all so much!
When I got through posting I went and looked at those "hooks that make you boundryless" and wow! You know, you can look at something a hundred times and when you are ready you are ready. I need to reexamine my boundaries. I told you guys that I go catatonic? Could that be disassociation? I can pull in really really far. It would take naked Mel to get a reaction out of me. So extreme detachment is probably another one.
Perhaps I have been SO detached and SO afraid of making the wrong move that I make no move at all. I am so careful to pick my battles that I don't have ANY. That is not healthy! I am going to state my boundary with the Beav...I will edit my letter and send it.
And this morning while I was driving my license suspended hubby to work at 4:45 am he commented on how BADLY I DRIVE. I let it go.
Well,
Ward....honey, sweetie, baby....I am coming home with the skillet...you better DUCK!!!!
Hugs,
JT