I am sorry you didn't like what you heard here. I don't think anyone meant to hurt your feelings. I certainly didn't it. I think it's important to be told the truth when it comes to dealing with someone's addiction. It's too painful for everyone involved when you don't know what you are facing.
I think it is really sad when people come here asking questions but then, when they don't agree with the answers they get, they post a message saying "I'm leaving". It's just too bad because there is so much combined experience, strength and hope here.
Hopefully the alanon meeting works out for you and you get whatever you need out of it to help you live the best life you possibly can. Maybe someday you will come back and have happy ending to share - whatever that looks like.