I relate to everything you have said - it is a learning curve for sure. I remember when I first started realizing that my AH had this disease, that he always wanted to go to restaurants that served alcohol. He is highly functional which keeps me so confused! Its seems like we are the ones being punished because we don't have the disease and yet we are the ones that can't enjoy social outings or even a glass of wine with dinner. But I have done this for about 4 years now - i have to fly once a year for business and I am not very fond of it so I would always have a couple of drinks to fly and he knew this - but yet he said if he had to quit i did too - and I have. I wish you the best of luck. I am so glad to have found SR!