well, my ABFs father has 30+ years clean... but now has an AS, so the cycle has repented itself. Its only 2 months into the boys recovery so there's NO WAY to know what he will choose... but I can say that I come from a long line of codependents, and as for me and my legacy "the buck stops here"
I remember when I had faith in the A in my life and when I called him my A... now though... IMHO, I can say I have zero faith in him only in our HP (we share the same higher power) I know that all things will work out for ME if I choose to have faith in the right things... things that can't fail, like honesty, wisdom, and discernment.
I am stepping back for this year to watch and wait and my oh my does he cling to me now that I am more aloof, but even if his recovery is genuine, he needs to get his sealegs. So glad you are here!
did you read cynical ones blog yet? its an awesome read. I can get lost in it all night.