I don't know how long your AH has been in recovery, but I do understand what
you are saying.
I can also tell you that there is hope if he stays in recovery. We can rebuild the
'fried' pathways in our brains. My brain scans are proof of that as are the brain
scans of other A's that my neurologist has seen over the years.
So 'damaged goods'? Maybe, but and that is a big BUT, those that find recovery,
work on their recovery and live their recovery, actually find quite a bit of joy
and excitement and pleasure in life, and I dare say sometimes more so than a
normie who has never fried their brains.
I believe part of that, at least in my case, and those I have sponsored and know,
is that we are just so damn grateful for actually being able to have a life that
we really experience both the happy and the sad times to the fullest.
You will have to decide for you, whether you want to go ahead and leave now for
good, separate for a while to see if his ACTIONS show he is in recovery and
starting to live life again, and then decide whether to get back together or go.
You will probably never see the man you knew before the addiction, however, in
recovery he can be an even better man than he was before addiction.
Only you can make the final decision. Maybe some discussion with a therapist
might be beneficial to decide this issue you are struggling with.
Feel free to PM me if you feel I can answer any of your questions.
Love and hugs,