It's ALWAYS easier to see it in someone else's situation than it is our own. I think that's part of why groups like Al-Anon, or SR, are so successful. It's often the case that we are so close to the situation we can't SEE what is going on. Great to have feedback from others who are more removed from the situation and have a different perspective on it. Especially when they are ALSO people who totally understand WHY we are doing the things we do.
Those who we jokingly refer to as "normies" think we are absolutely insane, the things we do. (And, of course, to some extent we do get a little goofy from being around the insanity that is alcoholism.) But others who have been there understand. While we may sometimes be a little, um, blunt or direct in what we say, there is never any judgment or looking down on others for doing the same things we have done.
As we like to say, when we know better, we DO better.
