I don't take anything the wrong way. If someone wants to show up my house and shake me when I need it, I'll pm you my address!
I'm still trying to understand what's controlling and what isn't(obviously). I have read 95% of the stickies at least once now.
I do realize the controlling behavior I just posted is controlling, was just restating what went through my mind the past 3 years that I wasn't always aware of.
I find it so much harder to see problems/proper action in my own life tan in someone else's. it's like I let myself get blinded for some reason.
