I think some guilt is realistic and you will address as you need to in moving forward. As long as the guilt is not in any way a suggestion of future use, then it's not AV, it's just guilt. I considered the guilt I had for the things I had done, most especially to my children, to be normal and appropriate. I used it to make some real changes, then let it go. Guilt has a purpose and can be useful, but can also cross the line into being harmful when one hangs onto it w/o action. Just my .02