I don't recall being controlling in any other relationship. Then again, I've never been in on with an alcoholic. I'm sure me having a older brother that is an alcoholic(30 years now) doesn't help in some way.
IVe heard him drop hints at his mom that he thinks she has a drinking problem. I'm not sure how to approach him. He handles things well, but I'm sure it's just a cover up. I'm having trouble myself, as I feel like I've hit the wall and realizing my lack of trusting her had its reasons. At what point do I draw the line? When she kills someone or herself? Her drinking has taken its toll on our relationship...I have tolerated it due to my codependent nature I've recently discovered.