Welcome to Sober Recovery, JKH. So glad you found this place. You will find so many supportive and compassionate people here that have found themselves in similar baffling and painful circumstances and who are surviving and even thriving despite it all.
Please read the sticky posts at the top of the friends and family forum to get started. Reading other threads here can be a source of great strength, too.
I'm going to say a prayer for you and your family now.
Peace,
Hanna