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Old 02-08-2013, 04:44 AM
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LexieCat
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Hi, Daisy, and welcome!

There are a lot of "double winners" here--people in AA and Al-Anon.

Try to think back to the time BEFORE you were ready to recover--I'm sure there was a lot of suffering you went through before you faced up to your problem and were ready to get help. You've heard the stories in the rooms, too, no doubt--for some people it seems to take a lot longer before they hit that point where they are able to accept what they need to do.

I've been in a couple of marriages to alcoholics, and am four and a half years sober myself, so I've seen both sides of the alcohol problem. It's a little different, I'm sure, when it's your child--it was appropriate, at one time, to do things for them and to protect them. It's hard to let go of the urge to keep doing that, but continuing to do so is probably doing neither her, nor you, any good.

Please try to find a meeting. You will meet other parents struggling with the same kinds of problems--a reminder that not everyone has only "little" problems like wedding plans.
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