Hi Faith,
I, too, have had to let go of the idea that I need support groups, other methods, etc etc to stay sober. I have been reading RR and using its ideas for nearly a week. It's a short time compared to others on here. However, for me it is working really well.
The notion I actually have power over this is, and I know it must sound daft, kind of revelatory. I had spent years thinking what's wrong with me, why can I not do this, better do XYZ.
The first time I sought I help on this I used other, more well-known methods. It was only from Googling I camne across this site. It was like a light bulb went off in my head.
I can recognise this urge as what it is - a selfish little beast who wants only its pleasure. It's not always easy and I have short period of time. I also have people who have told me I am white-knuckling, that I need to do XYZ.
I think I don't need to do anything I don't want to... I have made my decisions and I am going to stick to them.
All the best, SV x