Grizz, you are
1. A responsible man
2. A good father
3. A faithful partner
4. Someone who chooses to grow
She is
1. A drunk
I know your post, I know those kinds of thoughts you find yourself thinking. I thought the same, many years ago, when my alcoholic so resented me for not being willing to pack up and move with him to Hawaii (the alcoholic mecca). I remember what he called me: a "homebody." That is alcoholic-speak for someone who thinks being drunk on a beach is unrewarding.
Do not go there in your head, grizz, thinking she's a creative free spirit and you're just a lump on a bike with a dog keeping up. It's amazing the magic show the alcoholic performs. How do they do it? They actually convince their partners they are superior to them....It happened to me and I see it on the faces of people in Al-Anon meetings all the time. People who stopped believing they were wonderful because the alcoholic managed to pull a fake rabbit out of a fake hat and convince them that he or she was very very very special. And they were not.
What she wants is plenty room to drink.
I hear Alaska has it. Maybe you could buy her a ticket.