Hi RescueMe
when you say AlAnon do you mean AA (Alcoholics Anonymous)? cos they're not the same thing?
There are other recovery models outside the 12 steps tho - SMART, Rational Recovery, LifeRing, Women for Sobriety and SOS (Secular Organizations for Sobriety)all come to mind
You'll hear from others using some of those approaches here...I recommend you also visit the
Secular Connections forum if you're interested in a non 12 step approach.
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