I have talked with others who like that idea of ignoring that screaming child with the understanding that giving in to that out of control demon child is foolishness. Another tantrum? You are not me, and you get locked in your room. I am busy. No means no, and it will always mean no.
My AV is a manifestation of baser desires, and dealing with it has been me has been easy once I understood that it was time to just grow up. That isn't a popular suggestion to others as it invariably generates an emotional response - an adult to adult conversation gets mucked up when the communication changes to parent/child. Big boy pants for me though, and they fit too.