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Old 02-03-2013, 11:31 AM
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Recovering2
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Read "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. It will give you insight into your own behaviors. Your BF is still an active A, whether he drinks one or one hundred drinks a day. He's still drinking. And you are involved in his disease, trying to control things around you. Truth is, his son's relationship with the Stepdad is not your business. It's up to your BF to decide how he wants to handle it...not you. Not your battle.

AlAnon teaches us to stay on our side of the street. That means we need to focus on our behaviors, our issues...not the A's. Your BF is responsible for his side of the street, which includes his re'ship with his ex and his son.

I hope your BF chooses recovery at some point, and I hope you find your own recovery through AlAnon.
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