Originally Posted by
lizatola 
I confronted him about his cheating accusations and how that made me feel. He was hugging me and says, "does this seem like a man who thinks his wife is cheating on him?"
Hmmm... that sounds eerily familiar...
I'm sorry if I missed your previous threads, but are you able to go into more detail about his cheating paranoia? It seems that's one of the biggest problems with your relationship from your post (besides the alcoholism). My partner has the same endless paranoia. It has diminished quite a lot since he quit drinking, but is still there... usually in a joking fashion to disguise his underlying concern.
I empathise. It's exhausting. But I suspect it is a way for them to turn the tables and draw the attention away from the very real issue of their own lying and cheating (with booze).