ODAT ...what an A$$. Actually what a timely post. i made myself list all the bad in my relationship with XAGF last night to help me move away from my fantasy thinking. I honestly can say all holidays were bad...crying, drunkenness, etc. When I was 6 months pregnant with my twins, she said she was coming back for my birthday, she disappeared and went and got drunk with her sister. She was angry because the few Xmas gifts she bought were not what I'd asked for (close but importantly different...I wanted a kitchen CD player, she got a IPOD player and I don't own one!) so she returned all my gifts. She got pissed when my best friend brought the phone to my twins on their birthday so I could skype with them, and she started yelling and threatening her.