The "solution" in Al-Anon is found in the Steps. (The same place it is in AA.)
The slogans and such can help, but the program of Al-Anon really consists of the Step work. The Steps are best worked with a sponsor--someone who has worked them herself and can guide you through them. If there is someone you've met who really seems to have a good outlook on life, you might consider asking her to be your sponsor.