Cornfused,
I'm so terribly sorry for the circumstances that have brought to post here, but, Welcome to SR. Here you will find many others struggling with family and friends who are struggling with addiction. I would strongly encourage you to check out NarAnon and/or AlAnon meetings for yourself.
My 32 yr. old son is what brought me here. He is currently 3.5 years sober. But I have personally been to hell and back with my addiction to him, my enabling him, my love for him, etc.
I will post more later, but I just wanted to say "Hi" and "Welcome, you are among friends here."