Originally Posted by
RedSoxGirl 
well he's going to meetings 5 days a week but it's making me nervous. He wants to speak to his counsellor from treatment to see if I'm being a little overbearing (which hey, if I am then that's OK I'm willing to admit I was wrong!, but if my expectations are normal I need him to respect that). And here's an even bigger question: at what point does instincts become paranoia?
IMO, there is no paranoia in a trusting, honest and mutually respectful relationship.
Ah, the meetings!! My husband relapsed and continued to go to meetings. I had a false sense of security because he was attending meetings although my friend had warned me. Her husband was getting high with his sponsor. I learned meetings, sponsors and working the steps show in the behavior not the attendance.