Originally Posted by
MsPINKAcres 
For me, I learned I could tell the moment my ex ah relapsed - as soon as I saw his face - it showed in his eyes ~ when in recovery his eyes had a sparkle of hope, love and light - as soon as he lost that sparkle I knew he was in the depths of the disease - as far as when he started abusing the substances - it didn't matter - the mindset of recovery was gone.
pink hugs
Same here but my RAH doesn't do drugs. He has, way before I met him, but that life is over. His eyes tell a very sad story. I don't have to smell it, hear him speak or see him stagger anymore. I know when my husband has left me.
He will be 2 months sober on 2/9/13. It's not long but it's a start.
And I don't trust him either Audrey. He has sobered up for up to 8 months n promised he was done just to do it again. Summer time is his trigger n until he can get through that time sober, I cannot give him my trust.