I think we can get to a point where we over analyze what we are doing. You know what enabling is--your doing what your boyfriend can do for himself. It's okay to be with him in the waiting room while he visits with the doctor. Support is not enabling. When I had a panic attack and didn't know what was happening my husband went to the doctor with me. He didn't tell me what to do or speak to the doctor--my husband was just there for support. Ultimately it was up to me to follow my doctor's suggestions or not. Same as your boyfriend.