Her you go Fancy, it's a link to a thread that is in the "powerposts" stickied at the top. You might want to go up there, and also to the top of Nar-Anon and read some of the good stuff that we stuck up there to make it easy to access.
And a terrific book that we all swear by is
Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. Also, her
Language of Letting Go is good, and we post daily readings from it on Nar-Anon.
Good Luck.
http://soberrecovery.com/forums/show...threadid=14908
Hugs
Ann