Angie,
I see nothing wrong with you talking to the DA, if he will talk to you. My son was court ordered rehab twice in Fl. I wasn't thrilled with our governor at the time, but one of the siblings had a drug problem(s), was arrested for forging prescriptions and was court ordered rehab, relapsed, and was court ordered again.
I felt that his very public personal family problems helped others get counseling instead of just being locked up all day. My AS told me later that his laywer told him he almost went to prison and definitely would if he was arrested again.
Can you imagine your story being on CNN, local news, and the newspaper?? Mine was bad enough with the people that knew in my small circle lol!!!
(((I have walked your path, am still walking it, I pray for us all daily, some days I cry for us. Stay strong my friend.)))