I do not remember what I said to a guy my son was with one time but I do remember the guys response "You don't have to talk down to me I am a person" He was right I do remember at the time I was in denial about what my oldest son was doing and blaming everyone else.
I have considered making amends to this guy as I see him walking from time to time however I don't know if it would be safe for me.
I think compassion comes too each of us at different parts of our recovery.
I now have some compassion however I also have some recovery when you know better you do better...