Gracey,after reading some of your posts. I have one question..why do you stay? Are you in love with this bloke? Is he some one you want to wake up to for the next 20 years. Him forgetting your anniversary,year after year! I see the police have been to your house at least once. So your AH can hurt some one and you are afraid of him. He won't go get help on his own...you had to take him to a AA meeting..which he apparently didn't think he needed. Until this bloke decides he needs help and admits he is a alcoholic...you are scr????. Sorry but your stituation doesn't sound like you are on the winning end. I have the greatest respect for you. You are a very intelligent lady,who deserves much better. So why do you put yourself through this?