Thanks "Ilovemysonjj", I have found I always find a "nugget" to take with me from this site. It's been so helpful. Boy can I relate to the chaos you mention above. Funny enough, my mother and I both encouraged him the last time he was in treatment as well as prison. Put money on his phone card, wrote letters etc... I know when/if he finds himself there again my stance will be much different this time around. I will pay more attention to the actions rather than the words. Thank you for pointing out fb becoming an obsession. I am trying not to "peek" but have found it difficult not to seeing as it's really my only way of knowing if he's alive or not. It is not serving me well. I'm going to use your words of encouragement and pump the brakes next time I feel the urge to look. I will keep you and your son in my prayers...wishing the very best for him this time around.
Hugs,
Lizwig