Thanks everyone. SD knows her mum could die, but she has no sympathy for her (outwardly). She just says mum has brought it on herself. Mum knows too, of course, she gave that informationbut at the time SD hadn't been speaking to her, so we thought it could be emotional blackmail. But, mum reckons, & told us this, that her doctor has told her she doesn't have to stop drinking. I work in the medical profession & know for a fact that anyone diagnosed with ALD is told to quit. I challenged her on this, but she chose not to respond.
SD has weekly counselling at school. It's so damned hard.