((((((Glowworm))))))))))
From what I understand, this is perfectly normal. As we go through our recovery journey, the focus HAS to be on yourself, and as the A's go thru their recovery, their focus has to be on THEM. Doesn't leave much time for the couple, but as each becomes healthier it should become better.
I am so happy that you are going to a ftf meeting. I hope you find additional support and understanding there. Its a big step for you!
HOOORAY
Hugs
Osier59