At one time, I thought I could help my husband with HIS recovery. When I look back, I have to shake my head about my own inflated ego. Reading a few books, reading some articles and attending alanon, did not make me expert or even remotely qualified.
I am loving and supportive (most of the time) but I now know to step back and allow him to figure this out on his own with people who truly understand or who are well educated on the subject.
I would no more want or need his "advice" to help me deal and work on my codependency. In fact, I think I would resent his efforts to even try!